Looks like I'm the exception here. Happily married for 16+ years now and one of my secrets of keeping it that way is for me not to talk about certain things. Among those certain things are first and foremost politics. My wife is a bleeding heart liberal, and I have evolved to the libertarian side, so we don't talk politics.
Then there's guns. I carry a concealed gun daily since 2014, and I don't think my wife knows that. I shoot competition for a few years now, she knows that, and I know she's not a fan of it, but that's the extent to it. When I clean a gun I used on a weekend, she just looks disinterested. At some point I was accumulating guns like I did watches, and I don't think she knows about that either. I have since reduced my stack and will continue to reduce it further, because, like watches, I use only 2 or 3 whereas the others are mostly box queens. Similarly to my watches, I usually get my money back or close to it when I sell a gun after having owned it for a while.
Which brings me to watches. I have my 6 watches in a flat jewelry box in the top drawer of our master bedroom dresser. That box is next to another, smaller jewelry box where we keep some spending cash and cards we don't use much. She uses the cash box a lot, but I don't know if she ever even looked into the watch box although she must have because it's right there in front of her eyes.
The other day she noticed my Deapsea on my wrist and said "is that a Rolex?" to which I replied, "yes, an older one." The only follow-up question she asked was "how much is that worth?" to which I replied "a few hundred bucks" (I actually have a good $1K in it). She then followed up with "I thought Rolex are expensive?" and my reply was "not old ones. You have a Rolex, honey!" (In 2003 I bought her a GEN SS 26mm Rolex with 14K Gold bezel for $560 on eBay.) That ended the discussion.
She never asked about my other watches, except once when I had my gigantic Zlatoust on the wrist she said "that's really too much!" which is kind of true. No more questions about watches in all those years and I wear them all. I make the money and there's always money in our accounts and cash in the house, so it's not like anything that would raise eyebrows. She once in a while notices when I wear a new shirt or trousers, but I'm a thrifty shopper, so I only buy something when it's on sale and I really want it. (I think I have meanwhile 12 or 14 pairs of blue jeans which have cost me between $9.99 and $29.99 at Ross.)
I don't wear other jewelry except for my wedding ring, but if I were to buy a $9.99 bead bracelet or a $100 silver bracelet, I'm sure she would notice that immediately. A watch is simply what a man wears, at least old men, and unless it's yellow or rose gold or diamond crusted, it doesn't get much attention from non-watch people.
Then there's guns. I carry a concealed gun daily since 2014, and I don't think my wife knows that. I shoot competition for a few years now, she knows that, and I know she's not a fan of it, but that's the extent to it. When I clean a gun I used on a weekend, she just looks disinterested. At some point I was accumulating guns like I did watches, and I don't think she knows about that either. I have since reduced my stack and will continue to reduce it further, because, like watches, I use only 2 or 3 whereas the others are mostly box queens. Similarly to my watches, I usually get my money back or close to it when I sell a gun after having owned it for a while.
Which brings me to watches. I have my 6 watches in a flat jewelry box in the top drawer of our master bedroom dresser. That box is next to another, smaller jewelry box where we keep some spending cash and cards we don't use much. She uses the cash box a lot, but I don't know if she ever even looked into the watch box although she must have because it's right there in front of her eyes.
The other day she noticed my Deapsea on my wrist and said "is that a Rolex?" to which I replied, "yes, an older one." The only follow-up question she asked was "how much is that worth?" to which I replied "a few hundred bucks" (I actually have a good $1K in it). She then followed up with "I thought Rolex are expensive?" and my reply was "not old ones. You have a Rolex, honey!" (In 2003 I bought her a GEN SS 26mm Rolex with 14K Gold bezel for $560 on eBay.) That ended the discussion.
She never asked about my other watches, except once when I had my gigantic Zlatoust on the wrist she said "that's really too much!" which is kind of true. No more questions about watches in all those years and I wear them all. I make the money and there's always money in our accounts and cash in the house, so it's not like anything that would raise eyebrows. She once in a while notices when I wear a new shirt or trousers, but I'm a thrifty shopper, so I only buy something when it's on sale and I really want it. (I think I have meanwhile 12 or 14 pairs of blue jeans which have cost me between $9.99 and $29.99 at Ross.)
I don't wear other jewelry except for my wedding ring, but if I were to buy a $9.99 bead bracelet or a $100 silver bracelet, I'm sure she would notice that immediately. A watch is simply what a man wears, at least old men, and unless it's yellow or rose gold or diamond crusted, it doesn't get much attention from non-watch people.
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