Looking to change my life, need some input on a place to move to- West Coast...

[tommy_boy]

I am in the Portland area.

Southern Oregon interior (Rogue River valley) is affordable apart form Ashland proper. Weather is pretty good, although hotter than Humboldt.

If you want local info, let me know and I will do what I can to help.

 

[mch2112]

Did ThinkBachs somehow get banned in the last hour?

 

[trailboss99]

Um, no.

 

[mch2112]

Um, no.

Odd, tapatalk says banned, web doesn't. Probably I'm confused.

 

[ThinkBachs]

Crap, I just lost all the stuff I wrote.

Made the mistake of looking at my wife's cell phone, found message from a guy she used to work with but still keeps in touch with. She knows how I feel about her having anything to do with him- doesn't matter. What does matter is that I don't seem to have the right to get upset about it. To be honest, she's a great person if you're looking for someone to spend time with, and I'm not perfect by any means. Unfortunately, I'm someone who needs more than someone to hang out with. Something I didn't realize until a few years ago was that she was molested by an uncle when she was a teenager, meaning certain smells and other things related to intimacy are somewhat repulsive. I think the biggest frustration for us has been the conflict of physical Vs intellectual relationship. I'd love both, she, not so much.

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-Humor: I've always been the one who finds the lighter side of any situation, but just can't seem to do it very well for myself right now so pour it on. I recently sent an email trying to explain things a bit and interjected some humor but I don't think it went over so well.

-Van Down By The River: This is the only thing that really made me feel bad. I'm about to be homeless and the thought of eating raw fish and washing in cold water that comes from who knows where was a reality slap in the face I wasn't prepared for. I do have to admit that the idea of creating porn "down by the river" did offer a ray of hope in a dreary situation. Once I'm done responding here, I think I'll do some research... maybe that will cheer me up a bit.

-Gold Mining: I've seen some awesome properties online that are only available for mining rights. If there was some way to live there while doing it, maybe I could combine panning and porn... either way, one of them has got to pay off.

-Texas: I've been to Texas, Houston. The one thing that bothered me was how flat it was. I can't live some place where the only land mark is an oil drill or wind mill.

-Australia: I'll barely be able to get across country let alone move to another country!

 

[wat44]

Odd, tapatalk says banned, web doesn't. Probably I'm confused.

says do not buy or sell, but I have no idea why

 

[ssb045]

No pm's as well, but that may be your preference

 

[Rudy40]

Crap, I just lost all the stuff I wrote.

Made the mistake of looking at my wife's cell phone, found message from a guy she used to work with but still keeps in touch with. She knows how I feel about her having anything to do with him- doesn't matter. What does matter is that I don't seem to have the right to get upset about it. To be honest, she's a great person if you're looking for someone to spend time with, and I'm not perfect by any means. Unfortunately, I'm someone who needs more than someone to hang out with. Something I didn't realize until a few years ago was that she was molested by an uncle when she was a teenager, meaning certain smells and other things related to intimacy are somewhat repulsive. I think the biggest frustration for us has been the conflict of physical Vs intellectual relationship. I'd love both, she, not so much.

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-Humor: I've always been the one who finds the lighter side of any situation, but just can't seem to do it very well for myself right now so pour it on. I recently sent an email trying to explain things a bit and interjected some humor but I don't think it went over so well.

-Van Down By The River: This is the only thing that really made me feel bad. I'm about to be homeless and the thought of eating raw fish and washing in cold water that comes from who knows where was a reality slap in the face I wasn't prepared for. I do have to admit that the idea of creating porn "down by the river" did offer a ray of hope in a dreary situation. Once I'm done responding here, I think I'll do some research... maybe that will cheer me up a bit.

-Gold Mining: I've seen some awesome properties online that are only available for mining rights. If there was some way to live there while doing it, maybe I could combine panning and porn... either way, one of them has got to pay off.

-Texas: I've been to Texas, Houston. The one thing that bothered me was how flat it was. I can't live some place where the only land mark is an oil drill or wind mill.

-Australia: I'll barely be able to get across country let alone move to another country!

Well my friend there are plenty of hill's here in Kentucky!

 

[ThinkBachs]

Well my friend there are plenty of hill's here in Kentucky!

Too many rednecks though!

There's something about woods like this that draws me to the west coast...

 

[Rudy40]

Too many rednecks though!

There's something about woods like this that draws me to the west coast...

Your right there are to many rednecks. Me being from Detroit sometimes dont mix!

 

[R2D4]

Damn, sorry you are down on your luck. I seem to remember you have children too? Hope this "plan" is the right thing to do of course, then again, it's not my call and i really can't help you with suggestions for living out west other than it's beautiful.

What is your real trade if we may ask?



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[tommy_boy]

The Oregon coast, from Brookings to Port Orford for example, is another place to look. Coos and Curry counties. Very affordable, decent weather, not completely remote. Better tax situation than California, too (no sales tax.)

 

[Tommy Wiseau]

Sorry to hear that you're going through some rough my friend.
WA is a nice place, prices for land/living is quite affordable. Plus, we have really good coffee

Keep your head up man, I hope it turns out well for you.

 

[mydnytrydr]

Keep the faith..

TB, glad to see you keep it together through tough circumstances.... Does your vocation have any impact where you make a bed? You appear to have excellent computer skills... That could land you a job anywhere, but I would suggest a professional "Job Hunter", and if you're fortunate enough to live where you want, they could help tremendously (I used one once, and was a very successful gigalo in Fla for about 4 years )....

 

[bradj]

For texas don't think houston(armpit of tx) go west of austin to the hill country, plenty of hills, great views, rivers, lakes and low cost of living. Plus you'll still only be an hour or less from Austin which has very low unemployment with many technology job opportunities.

I moved from San Diego here and love it!! Cost of living is half!!

Good Luck!!

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[ThinkBachs]

-Trade: I don't work well in a corporate environment, though I've never had a problem finding a job. I'm one of those people who interview very well, but eventually get frustrated by rules and authority. [big surprise?] I suppose I'm probably half idiot savant meaning there really isn't much I can't do or fix. I much prefer to work with small businesses, the internet means I can do this just about anywhere... tools mean I can work everywhere else.

-Professional Job Hunters: I used to be one. General labor, clerical, secretarial, industrial, technical, and medical. There wasn't much that didn't cross my desk, and I had a great relationship with my clients. Met a lot of great people, and a lot of really strange ones. The two that stick out to this day where a woman who insisted on being addressed as "Princess" because she felt that she deserved to be treated as such. The other was a black guy that I had trouble placing because of his lack of skills and attitude- he came into the office with a black Michelin Man jacket on and thought that keeping his hand in his pocket as though he had a gun while trying to convince me I needed to try harder to find him a job was a good idea. It was not.

Amazingly rewarding work being able to help someone find a way to earn a living.

I was doing some thinking late last night and watched the latest video I did of our church service yesterday:

[AME]http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=VeeLWAkUqvs[/AME]

[skip to 2:57]

It helps.

So, the idea of finding some place in the middle of nowhere is fading. Now I'm thinking that I'd prefer to be somewhere that has a community where I can help another Methodist church and is surrounded by decent people. Based on my experience at Sarah Jane, I've had my fill of helping poor folk who see the church as an entitlement rather than a way towards improving their lives.

 

[ThinkBachs]

The Oregon coast, from Brookings to Port Orford for example, is another place to look. Coos and Curry counties. Very affordable, decent weather, not completely remote. Better tax situation than California, too (no sales tax.)

These were the first places I looked. Hard to find a good source for property sales though, it seems most of them are only interested in selling 200K homes- not in my price range. Besides, if I had a choice between a fixer upper or building something of my own, I'd go that route any day. I suppose it's the same mentality that a classic car restorer might have when offered a brand new car instead of a project car.

I prefer small and cozy over ostentatious.

One of the ideas that I've been seriously looking into is building a shipping container house:

http://www.jetsongreen.com/2009/06/maison-idekit-shipping-container-homes

Lot of ideas and information available about putting one together. No rules... works for me. Just a matter of finding the right property to build one on.

 

[dbane883]

Here's my opinion about you and your situation.

In no less than 24 hours you've gone from wanting to build a shack in the woods by yourself to being more involved in community work in an urban center. Something is incongruent here and I realize that you've gone through some tough events. I apologize for what might have appeared to be insensitive comments earlier, but to be frank, living in a van by a river was exactly what you were contemplating. The stark reality is, many people go through some tough times and each deal with them differently. Living in a van by yourself usually doesn't end well. Either you grow bitter and more resentful of your situation as you brood in your solitary thoughts, and eventually contemplate suicide or revenge on the people who you think may have been responsible for driving you away. Or rarely, you may reach a point of enlightenment and forgiveness and eventually come back in some way to society. As a group, because you asked, we would be remised not to give you our perspective on the matter. If a relative of mine said that they were gonna drop everything and everyone, I would give them the same slap in the face. And I do have one relative that dud just what you were contemplating and its not ending well, trust me.

I think you should stay productive and really try to make a difference and make this world a better place. Feeling sorry for yourself and attempting to get validating by an internet forum of strangers is not helpful. I mean that.

I like your idea of assisting in an appropriate church temporarily until you've gone through all your options before settling on one that feels right. It's ok to make a drastic change, but only if its the right choice. I don't think you've thought it through enough. And only you can decide. Not us.

 

[ThinkBachs]

Here's my opinion about you and your situation.

In no less than 24 hours you've gone from wanting to build a shack in the woods by yourself to being more involved in community work in an urban center. Something is incongruent here and I realize that you've gone through some tough events. I apologize for what might have appeared to be insensitive comments earlier, but to be frank, living in a van by a river was exactly what you were contemplating. The stark reality is, many people go through some tough times and each deal with them differently. Living in a van by yourself usually doesn't end well. Either you grow bitter and more resentful of your situation as you brood in your solitary thoughts, and eventually contemplate suicide or revenge on the people who you think may have been responsible for driving you away. Or rarely, you may reach a point of enlightenment and forgiveness and eventually come back in some way to society. As a group, because you asked, we would be remised not to give you our perspective on the matter. If a relative of mine said that they were gonna drop everything and everyone, I would give them the same slap in the face. And I do have one relative that dud just what you were contemplating and its not ending well, trust me.

I think you should stay productive and really try to make a difference and make this world a better place. Feeling sorry for yourself and attempting to get validating by an internet forum of strangers is not helpful. I mean that.

I like your idea of assisting in an appropriate church temporarily until you've gone through all your options before settling on one that feels right. It's ok to make a drastic change, but only if its the right choice. I don't think you've thought it through enough. And only you can decide. Not us.

Thank you for reminding me why I hesitated in reaching out here to begin with.

 

[PecMan]

hi bro, i have been away from this place for 2 long i guess , looks like something really bad is going on in your life! be strong! new year is comming and more oportunities ! u still alive just put goals in your life and try not to loose the motivation ! love u